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🎁 Top 5 Gifts for Craft Lovers (2025 Holiday Edition)
Calling all makers, miniaturists, world-builders, and lovers of tiny, cozy things. Craft lovers are simple: give us something we can build, arrange, glue, paint, or assemble — and we’re in heaven. It’s all about the process , the slow joy, and the little worlds we get to bring to life. I’ve been deep in my crafting obsession lately, and these five curated gifts will absolutely spark joy, creativity, and that blissful “flow state” for anyone like me. For transparency: #1 was g
6 days ago4 min read
32 Things I Learnt at 32
For the past few years, I’ve made it a tradition to write down the things I’ve learned by the time my birthday arrives. It helps me slow down and notice how I’ve changed — even when life feels like it’s moving too fast to keep track. So here I am again, continuing the ritual. These are the lessons that stayed with me this year. To be truly happy, you need to embrace all parts of yourself, that is to give freedom to the parts of yourself that you've been suppressing for whatev
Oct 303 min read
From Shopping Shame to Shopping Joy: My Journey to Guilt-Free Fashion
Growing Up in the Shadow of Modesty When I’m complimented on what I’m wearing, I feel a spark of joy— quickly dusted with a little shame. Growing up, my parents taught me to be modest. Instead of comparing belongings or showing off, I was encouraged to focus on working hard and getting good grades. This “lay low” mindset ran deep. I felt proud that I never begged for the latest designer bag or flashy gadget like some peers. Yet this also planted a seed of shame around enjoyin
Oct 19 min read
The Spark I Forgot I Needed
Yesterday, I woke up feeling unusually emotional — and I cried a little. I think I know why. The day before, we celebrated Juneteenth. My...
Jul 133 min read
How I’m Preparing for an AI Future We Can’t Predict
The future isn’t just arriving — it’s accelerating. Faster than we’re ready for, AI is reshaping how we work, think, connect, and...
Jul 55 min read
What If the Detour Is the Path?
Lately, I’ve been grappling with a question that seems deceptively simple but has profound implications: Should we plan our lives, or let...
Jun 195 min read
When Maintenance Becomes a Milestone
It’s June — we’re halfway through the year. A natural time to pause and reflect: What have I actually done? As someone who’s always been...
Jun 154 min read
5 Transformative Habits to Stop Eating Out & My Go-To Easy Meals
I grew up as a picky and emotional eater with a not-so-great appetite — I even used to "punish" my parents by refusing to eat when I was...
Apr 286 min read
Five Ways I've Been Decluttering into 2025
With the start of the real new year for those of us who celebrate Chinese New Year—and my big move back to the U.S. — I’ve been on a...
Feb 164 min read
Reflections from My Recent Solo Trip & Tips for Solo Travelers
Over the winter holidays, I embarked on my first real solo trip to a foreign country: Singapore! Spending much of my free time alone over...
Jan 126 min read
31 Things I Learnt at 31
Friendship is underrated. Improving your relationship with your parents is life transforming - the first step is to seek to understand...
Nov 4, 20242 min read
I Found What Self-Love Means to Me
Self-love can take many forms, and it can look different for each of us. For me, this journey began with a simple yet profound...
Oct 5, 20244 min read
10 Ways To Unlock Your Happiness Potential
Welcome to our exploration of happiness, a concept as elusive as it is cherished. Happiness, a term that conjures up a myriad of images...
Mar 4, 202417 min read
Declutter Your Home: Tips for Mastering 5 Common Tidying Struggles
Growing up, my desk resembled chaos, with items scattered at various angles, claiming almost every inch of the surface. My chair,...
Jan 19, 20247 min read
Stepping Into the Unknown: How to Embrace a Big Life Change
"Stop thinking of change as interruption to a story; the story was always going to change, many times. It was never guaranteed. In fact,...
Dec 25, 20235 min read
30 Things I Learnt at Age 30
You start to appreciate the little things in every day, once you know there is an end to it. We can all live a creative life. Check out...
Nov 1, 20232 min read
Finding My Own Path: Navigating the Pressure to Party
Loud music, drinks in hand, dancing with a crowd of strangers or friends are a common way for people to unwind and socialize in bars,...
Sep 16, 20234 min read
A Taste of Home: Unwrapping Mom's Bao
Eight years ago, on a bitterly cold winter evening in Minnesota, I found myself craving mom's baozi. So I decided to make them myself....
Jul 9, 20235 min read
My Immigrant Stories: "Where are you from?"
Why I'm I Writing About My Immigrant Stories? Thanks to the COVID pandemic, I've had the luxury of spending a considerable amount of time...
May 5, 20234 min read
They Say You Should Have Kids Because...: My Responses
The question of whether or not to start a family has become a frequent topic of conversation since I got married and turned 29. This is...
Apr 16, 20237 min read
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