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  • Writer's pictureSarah Tian

How to Cope with Fear of Aging

The thought of us getting older can be scary. According to a recent Forbes Health survey of 2,000 U.S. adults, 47% of U.S. adults have fear of growing old.


Every year on our birthdays, we are confronted with the undeniable truth that we are getting older. No wonder why after a certain age, we may stop looking forward to celebrating our birthdays! As our age becomes more evident, there's no need for this extra reminder!

I've never been someone who is afraid of growing old. But since I turned 29 and as I'm reaching the magic number of 30, I've definitely had more thoughts about this topic. This is in part because I've noticed symptoms that I'm getting older: e.g. back pains, harder to recover from jet-lags, more recently I found out I have convergence insufficiency, which is something that becomes more apparent as we age. I'm also reminded that my fertility will start to decrease after 30, so I need to plan for having kids before it's too late.


There is also a common saying in China that "at thirty, one should stand firm (三十而立)" that comes from Confucian teachings. It suggests that by the age of thirty, an individual should have established a stable foundation in life, both personally and professionally. Even though this is just a saying, such sayings can contribute greatly to our anxieties about getting older and what we should be achieving at a certain age.


So we've all, at some point in our lives, felt a little nervousness or even worry about becoming older.


So how do we deal with the inevitable aging process and ease our fears?


How to cope with fear of aging?


💡 Find out the root causes of your fears and challenge them.


You are probably not scared of aging itself, but the inevitable or imagined consequences of aging.


Ask yourself: What exactly is it about aging that scares you?


Some of our fears of aging are grounded in basic facts, such as as the fear of physical and mental decline that are inevitable. Others may not necessarily be true.


Write down those fears.


Now, it's time to question them.


Are they necessarily true?


For example, your fear of becoming less attractive is not necessarily true. This fear likely stems from marketing campaigns by the anti-aging beauty industry that sets the beauty standards and thrives by inciting fears in you.


Then ask yourself, WHY you are scared of this in the first place?


Why do you even care about being attractive?


Digging deeper, you may find that what you are really afraid is not being loved and valued by others. Then you sudden realize there are so many other things you can offer that makes you a valuable person that does not diminish with age, such as your knowledge and wisdom, that will actually increase with age!


💡 Understand the aging process


Many of our fears of aging are based on objective facts about how our bodies physically change.


Understanding what to expect can demystify some fears and help you make informed decisions about your health and lifestyle. Talking to your friends who are older than you can also give you a more realistic sense of what to expect as you age.


According to ChatGPT, as we age, our bodies undergo various physical changes, which are a natural part of the aging process. These changes can vary from person to person, but some common physical changes associated with aging include:

  • Wrinkles and Fine Lines: As we age, our skin loses elasticity and collagen, leading to the development of wrinkles and fine lines, especially in areas exposed to the sun, like the face and hands.

  • Gray Hair: The pigment-producing cells in our hair follicles gradually reduce, causing hair to lose its color and turn gray or white.

  • Thinning Hair: Hair may become thinner and more brittle as we age, leading to hair loss or reduced hair volume.

  • Reduced Muscle Mass: With aging, there is a gradual decline in muscle mass, strength, and overall physical performance. This process is known as sarcopenia.

  • Decreased Bone Density: Bone density tends to decrease as we age, leading to an increased risk of osteoporosis and fractures.

  • Joint Stiffness: Joints may become stiffer and less flexible over time due to changes in the cartilage and connective tissues.

  • Slower Metabolism: The metabolic rate tends to slow down with age, which can make it more challenging to maintain a healthy weight.

  • Changes in Vision: Many people experience changes in their vision as they age, such as presbyopia (difficulty focusing on nearby objects) and an increased risk of conditions like cataracts and age-related macular degeneration.

  • Hearing Loss: Age-related hearing loss, known as presbycusis, is a common condition where hearing sensitivity decreases, particularly for high-pitched sounds.

  • Reduced Cardiac Function: The heart's ability to pump blood efficiently may decrease with age, leading to reduced cardiovascular fitness.

  • Slower Reflexes and Reaction Time: The nervous system undergoes changes, resulting in slower reflexes and reaction times.

  • Changes in Hormone Levels: Hormonal changes, such as decreased levels of estrogen and testosterone, are common with aging and can lead to various symptoms.

  • Slower Wound Healing: The skin's ability to heal wounds may slow down with age due to reduced cell turnover and collagen production.

It's important to note that while these physical changes are typical in the aging process, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, including regular exercise, a balanced diet, and avoiding harmful habits, can help mitigate some of these effects and contribute to a better quality of life as we age. Additionally, individual genetics and lifestyle choices can influence the extent and pace of these aging-related changes.


💡Focus on what you can control


While you can't stop the aging process, you can take steps to stay healthy and maintain a good quality of life. Focus on eating a balanced diet, regular exercise, getting enough sleep, managing stress and putting on sunscreen everyday.


According to ChatGPT, here is a list of some things you can do to slow down the aging process.

  • Regular Exercise: Engage in a combination of cardiovascular exercises, strength training, and flexibility exercises. Regular physical activity helps maintain muscle mass, bone density, and cardiovascular health, while also promoting cognitive function and emotional well-being.

  • Balanced Diet: Follow a balanced and nutritious diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats. Proper nutrition provides essential nutrients that support cellular health and repair.

  • Stay Hydrated: Drink an adequate amount of water daily to keep your body hydrated and maintain proper organ function.

  • Get Enough Sleep: Prioritize getting enough quality sleep. During sleep, the body repairs and regenerates tissues, and the brain consolidates memories and processes information.

  • Protect Your Skin: Use sunscreen to protect your skin from harmful UV rays, as excessive sun exposure can accelerate skin aging. Avoid smoking and limit alcohol consumption, as they can also contribute to premature aging of the skin.

  • Manage Stress: Chronic stress can have negative effects on overall health and accelerate aging. Practice stress-reducing techniques like meditation, deep breathing exercises, yoga, or spending time in nature.

  • Stay Mentally Active: Engage in mentally stimulating activities, such as puzzles, reading, learning new skills, or playing games, to keep your brain sharp and cognitive function intact.

  • Social Engagement: Stay socially active and maintain strong connections with family and friends. Social interactions can improve emotional well-being and cognitive health.

  • Avoid Harmful Substances: Avoid or limit the use of substances that can have adverse effects on health, such as smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, and recreational drug use.

  • Regular Health Check-ups: Visit your healthcare provider regularly for check-ups and screenings. Early detection and management of health conditions can contribute to healthy aging.

  • Stay Active Mentally: Engage in activities that stimulate your brain, such as reading, puzzles, learning new skills, or pursuing hobbies that challenge your mind.

  • Maintain a Positive Attitude: Positive thinking and optimism have been linked to better health outcomes and improved aging.


💡 Use fear of aging as a motivator


When we think about aging, we are reminded of our limited time and that time is running out. We may feel that we have wasted a lot of time and have not accomplished or experienced as many things as we'd like so far in our lives.


Since we cannot go back in time, we just need to learn from our failures, mistakes and missed opportunities. They have made us grow in one way or another, so let's try to be grateful for all our past experiences.


All we can do is focus on the future. From now on, we just need to use our time more wisely and prioritize doing only what's the most important to us everyday.


So if you are not satisfied with what you have accomplished so far, now is the time to make a change.


💡Don't let your age limit you before it really does


Sometimes, we limit our own happiness because we buy into societal expectations of what we should and should not be doing at different ages.


For example, I've always liked plush toys growing up and have secretly been obsessed with the Jellycat toys. I cannot walk past a shop displaying Jellycats without making a stop to squeeze each one. But somehow, I've been telling myself: "I'm too old for this" and felt shameful for still liking them, so I have resisted the urge of buying them for a long time. Then one day, a dear friend gifted me with my first Jellycat. I was so happy!!!


From then on, I learnt that I should never limit myself with what I "should" like and not like at a certain age. What's the most important is to do things that make me happy.


We can all continue to explore new interests and engage in new pursuits throughout our lives. Unless we are truly physically/mentally unable to do it, never say "I'm too old for this"!


💡 Shift your focus on the benefits of aging


We have the tendency to bias toward focusing on the negative aspects of aging, and don't spend nearly enough time thinking about all the potential advantages associated with getting older.


Take some time to think about: What are some benefits of getting older? What will you gain as you age?


There may be many positive aspects of getting older that includes (according to ChatGPT):

  • Wisdom and Experience: As people age, they accumulate a wealth of knowledge and experience. This can lead to increased wisdom and better decision-making abilities. Older individuals often have a broader perspective on life, having faced and overcome various challenges.

  • Emotional Maturity: With age comes emotional maturity. Older adults may find it easier to cope with emotions and have a more balanced and stable emotional state. They often have a better understanding of their own emotions and those of others.

  • Resilience: Over the years, people encounter numerous hardships and setbacks. Dealing with these challenges helps build resilience, making them better equipped to handle difficulties that come their way.

  • Reduced Stress: As people age, they may develop better coping mechanisms, leading to reduced stress levels. Older adults may be less likely to sweat the small stuff and find ways to navigate through life's stressors.

  • Enhanced Social Skills: Throughout their lives, individuals develop and refine their social skills. Older adults often excel in social situations, as they have had ample time to practice communication and interpersonal relationships.

  • Increased Self-Confidence: With age, people tend to develop a stronger sense of self and self-confidence. They may become more comfortable in their own skin and embrace their individuality.

  • Stronger Relationships: Aging can deepen connections with family and friends. As people age, they often prioritize meaningful relationships, leading to more profound and fulfilling connections.

  • Retirement and Leisure: For those who have prepared for retirement, aging can offer the opportunity to enjoy leisure activities and pursue hobbies that they didn't have time for during their working years.

  • Appreciation of Life: As individuals age, they may gain a deeper appreciation for life itself. They are more aware of the finite nature of life, which can lead to a greater appreciation of the present moment and the simple pleasures in life.


💡 View Aging as a Privilege & Cultivate Gratitude


Lastly, do you know that becoming old is a privilege that not everyone can enjoy? Let's be grateful that we are still alive and get to become one day older today! :)


Conclusion


Even though aging can seem daunting, by understanding the realities of what to expect, focusing on what we can control to slow down aging, and reminding ourselves of all the benefits of growing older can all help to ease our fears!


Also, you may be comforted to hear that a recent study found that people seem to fear aging less with each year they grow older!


Remember, we are all in this aging journey together.


You are certainly not alone on this one! :)

 

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